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Comment on Is Abuse Really Just Physical? by paul

paul — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:40:33 +0000

What an eye opener to what I been doing.

Comment on Girls – Watch for the Signs before You Commit by admin

admin — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 06:43:22 +0000

You can attest to the fact that when we don’t listen to our brain, we wind up kicking ourselves for lost years. Lost money on top of lost years is hard to forgive ourselves for.
Much easier to walk away from someone you dearly love, to save yourself future agony.

Comment on Girls – Watch for the Signs before You Commit by Christy K (NJKatwoman)

Christy K (NJKatwoman) — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 01:12:55 +0000

I can certainly relate to that quirk about wanting to see the best in people. It has bitten me in the a** more times than I can count. I used to think I was a “nut magnet”, attracting every loser in a 50 mile radius, but no…I was
just too good-hearted, and I overlooked the warning signs.
And when you stated, “He asking you for your savings so he can pay off some debts?” Got burned so bad. Loaned husband over $20,000 of my Dad’s money that I was P.O.A. on…hubby said he needed it for credit card debts. He pouted for three days until I finally relented and loaned it to him. Of course, I never saw it again. I just found out that the man burned me out of my QDRO money, his lawyer, my lawyer, none of them ever filed a QDRO as the court had ordered them to do. Now, my old lawyer wants me to give him $3,000 for him to do what he told me he did 13 years ago!!! Now I’m burned out of $40,000!! On top of the $20,000 that Steve never paid back.
I had no one to warn me of anything. And I curse my loving good heart. It’s always been my nature and I don’t know how to change it. Perhaps I should just become a hermit?! lol!
One newly popular woman on YouTube and Twitter, who makes variously themed videos including cooking videos, shared with me a few months back, that her husband was a constant philanderer. He cheated on her constantly. Why she is still with him is beyond my comprehension. But since shes rides along with him in the truck, he probably never leaves her sight anymmore! lol! Some women have no self-respect. But I had enough self-respect to draw the line, and when I found out that hubby was paying the bookie $500.00 a week, instead of paying me back, (to put back in Dad’s account) it went rapidly downhill from there. I dropped a dime on the SOB, and had the whole gambling ring brought down.
I have had my share of moochers, losers, all in the name of love. And I am now happily single, and content to shower my love and attention on my “furkids”. They don’t hit, verbally abuse, lie, or steal from me.
Hmm….you know, I think I’ll be calling some associations to report my lawyer to. I’m going to start
kicking down some creeps and taking names. Enough is enough.

Comment on The Compulsive Liar by admin

admin — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:37:36 +0000

And this addresses the compulsive liar how? One odd thing I noticed in your comment is this reference to sexual arousal. I was spanked as a child and I don’t remember ever being sexually aroused. Where does this concept come from?
I doubt anyone would consider spanking their child after the age of 18 – after the age of 16 for that matter.

This concept of protecting the child even from his own parents’ discipline, is the underlying reasons for things like school shootings. Where does one draw the line?

Comment on The Compulsive Liar by PDeverit

PDeverit — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:49:18 +0000

People used to think it was necessary to “spank” adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual assault if a person over the age of 18 is “spanked”, but only if over the age of 18.

For one thing, buttock-battering can vibrate the pudendal nerve, which can lead to sexual arousal in some people. There are numerous other physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won’t list them all here. One can use the resources I’ve posted if they want to learn more.

Child bottom-battering/slapping vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child bottom-battering (euphemistically labeled “spanking”,”swatting”,”switching”,”smacking”, “paddling”,or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like “Supernanny” and “Dr. Phil” are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at http://www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
American Psychological Association,
Center For Effective Discipline,
Churches’ Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus’ Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.