The Compulsive Liar

Compulsive lies lead down a long road

I have lived this nightmare and I have no hard and fast rules for handling it. I do know this – the longer you let it continue, the harder it gets to confront and fix such a problem.

Raising a child that compulsively lies, truly needs to be tended to while they are still young or they will carry the habit into adulthood and find nothing but ruin, all through their lives. Who can employ a compulsive liar? Who can marry one?

If you don’t nip it in the bud, you will be unleashing ruin in the world, both for your child and anyone near them.

A compulsive liar will lie about absolutely everything, from their own health to how much money they have. A compulsive liar hopes to ‘get by’ in life, without ever having to face their true selves or having to be honest with others. It won’t work, regardless of the lies they tell themselves.

A compulsive liar, expects the world to believe their lies and what’s more, they begin to believe their own lies. At some point in their lives, they change their entire history and can no longer see the truth.

I could give you a whole slew of examples but to do so would be to talk behind the backs of some of my own loved ones. It’s a shame but most likely, millions deal with this every day.

The only possible solution is for parents to understand that this habit will not only ruin the lives of their children but can, and does, return to their own laps. When a child grows up, unable to face reality or responsibility, they also fail in their attempts of independence and who do they have to run to – you. If you then suffer from guilt over you past negligence you will fall prey to the ever draining lies of your own child.

Dr. Spock should have been hung by his thumbs for ever presenting to parents that it’s evil to spank their children or tell them ‘no’. His influence has ruined more than one generation. Today, we coddle our children instead of setting good examples for them and teaching them right from wrong. We have become afraid to be true parents, in our children’s lives.

As parents, one of the worst things we can do is let a child get away with a lie without consequences. Those children grow up thinking they can manipulate their world and have others just go along with them, as their parents did.

I’m old school, that’s true but ‘old school’ did not turn out lazy, cheating liars. True, some children were simply unteachable but for those who were, they turned out to be responsible adults, standing on two steady legs.

A whining boy grows up to be a whining man. A petty girl grows up to be a petty woman. Don’t think they will simply adapt to adult life and change their ways. It doesn’t happen.

Imagine yourself, in the future, standing before an equal to yourself, knowing them through and through, and still listening to their lies. It’s too late then, to confront them.

When others say of your child, “they should be in the movies”, think twice before you take that as a compliment. They may be trying to tell you that your child is a great actor and has you fooled.

You think your own child couldn’t possibly pull the wool over your eyes? Think again. It happens all the time.

When that child says, “nothing” in that whiny voice, don’t just say ok and go on with what you’re doing. Demand a straight answer. When your child will not, flatly refuses, to confess to something and you know darn well he’s guilty, don’t question yourself – question him!

When a child tells you to stay out of their private room, put your foot down. He doesn’t own a private room. He’s paying for nothing! He will have privacy when he grows up and starts supporting himself and not until then. Don’t be pushed around in your own home.

It is still true that child did not come into this world on his own.When he gets big enough to throw ‘I didn’t ask to be born’ in your face, be sure you come back with ‘who did?’ Which of us asked to be born? That’s about the filthiest thing that can come out of the mouth of your child and it needs to be shoved right back where it came from. Why should you feel guilty for bringing him into this world? That’s the height of disrespect and you deserve his respect.

If you have a child with the audacity to tell you to ’shut up’, that’s a child that needs to strictest punishment you can administer.

Taking away all those electronics is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of. Why does that child have all those expensive gadgets, anyway. All they’ve done for him is make him fat and lazy. Giving a child his every whim, is a cop out. In my opinion, this is nothing more than parents who don’t want children and are too bothered to be a part of their lives.

Am I harsh? Maybe so but from experience and knowledge of this true world. Look around you. Especially if you live in the U.S. What do you see? Children with drugs and guns? Little girls whoring themselves before they even know what life is all about? Children with gobs of makeup and short skirts?

Truly! Is this what you envisioned in the labor room? You can blame it on the government, you can blame it on society but in your home, you are the lord and master.

For those who are planning to marry, I have this warning. Always remember that one lie is just a symptom of what’s to come. If you marry someone, you’ve already caught in one little lie, you are asking for a future of absolute misery. If someone that close to you can lie to you about anything, they can lie about everything. Believe me, I’ve been there.

At this point, I’ve either lost you as a reader or gained a fan. I have to speak honestly, that’s the way I was raised.

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