Build – Don’t Destroy

One of the fastest ways I know, to create a troubled child, is to criticize and never uplift.

It’s up to the parents to build a child’s self esteem. The world sure won’t do it for you.

It’s more than just ‘that’s great, hon’. It takes a lot of “you’re the smartest kid, I know and I’m proud of you”. “You can do anything you set your mind to.”

“I don’t know what I’d do without you.”

“I love you so much.” “You mean so much to me.” “I’m the proudest mamma, a kid could have.”

“Do you know, you’re special to me?” “Sure, you can do it. I have no doubt.” “I know you have it in you. You’ll get it done, someday.”

Kids need to hear these things, every day. The more you uplift them and encourage them, the more they excel.

Make a child feel they are stupid or not important and you’ll watch your little ones turn into stutterers, tantrum throwers and just plain all around obnoxious. Either they will feel that what they have to say, is not important to you or they may just decide that the only way to get attention from you, is by screaming.

Pay attention to your children. Make them feel that what they have to say, is important. That way, when they get older and face more serious things in life, they will feel more open to talking with you about it.